




Working to INform,
Guide & Support
Those who have been sexually abused within the Truth
Fellowship
W.I.N.G.S.
FOR TRUTH

"But the
child's sob in the silence curses deeper Than the strong man in his
wrath."
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Child Abuse doesn't hurt a little; it hurts for generations
Protecting children – who cannot speak for themselves – should not and cannot be discretionary and it is not only our moral duty, it is now the law. We all must be alert to those circumstances that, unless properly managed, pose a threat to the welfare of our children.
“…NOW it is high time to awake out of
sleep”
Romans 13:11


NOTIFICATION LETTERS (from worker to field)

FOR WORKERS - INTRODUCTION TO ARTICLES
For over a decade, WINGS has attempted to determine the Biblical method of handling incidents of Child Sexual Abuse (CSA). Where there is Biblical instruction, command and/or precedent, these have been used in the recommended procedures that follow.
Where the Bible is silent, methods using Biblical principles are presented. The following collection of articles has been taken directly from scripture and/or work in harmony with the scripture.
The manner in which a CSA occurrence is handled is not up to the discretion of the Victim, the Abuser, the church or the workers. It doesn't depend on whether or not the Victim or the Abuser profess.
The Standard for what is right is to obey the (1) Laws of the Land and (2) the Laws of God. The church professes to honor Scripture by honoring ordinances of men, which are the Laws of the Land.
WINGS primary concern is the CSA victim, as well as justice, healing, restoration, restitution, etc. for them.
WINGS considers the actions recommended in these articles to be the minimum acceptable response. These actions represent a just and fair procedure that will encourage healing for the Victim and enable them to recover emotionally from this atrocity.
WINGS firmly believes that an extremely important part in the healing process for a CSA victim is to receive a meaningful apology. Therefore, several articles are included in this section about the fundamental value of apologies, an explanation of the five basic aspects of apology, as well as a basic Apology Model. A Confession Model is also included.
WINGS firmly believes the workers should strongly encourage the Offender to apologize and make a written Confession.
WINGS also firmly believes the Offender should be publicly disciplined by the church, and offer a verbal confession and apology to the congregation. Guidelines for The Responsibility of the Church are included here.
The workers can facilitate the Apology and Confession by providing the Offender with a copy of the Victim’s Account of the CSA, and an article on the Fundamentals of an Apology. Failure of the Offender to do so will result in the Offender’s excommunication from the church. However, if a meaningful apology is written and submitted, along with the public confession and apology, the Offender may remain within the church, with restrictions applying. A suggested list of Restrictions for Offenders are included in this section.
WINGS firmly believes it is the workers’ responsibility to hold a meeting with any adult Victim (or their representative) and any other individuals the Victim desires to be present. A worker will present (1) an Apology from the Offender (if one is submitted) and (2) an Apology from the ministry/church. If the Victim is unable to understand the apology, their caretaker will hold the written apology in safe keeping until such time as they are able to comprehend it. Included in this section is a suggested outline for the order of this Meeting, titled Guide for Workers.
WINGS firmly believes that the church members (friends and workers) have a right to be notified by the workers of any incidents of CSA by workers, elders or friends. The proper time for notification is: when the person has pled guilty; or has been formally charged, or a warrant for their arrest has been issued. A sample Notification Letter is included in this section.
FOR THE WORKERS:
READ FIRST:
Associated Articles:
What Good are Apologies?Apology Guidelines (to be used with offender)What is the Responsibility of the Church?
What is the Responsibility of the Workers?Effects of CSA on the Victim Restrictions for OffenderNotification Letter Model Conditions for Fellowship
FOR THE OFFENDER:
Confession ModelApology ModelApology FundamentalsApology GuidelinesRestrictions for Offender
This section is a work-in-progress and more articles will be added in the future. As various nuances arise in CSA situations, modifications will be made to these articles. Biblical Principles to be followed in CSA incidents:
1. The Christian goal is to do God's will
2. The Bible is the standard for God's will
3. The Bible directs Christians to:
Peter wrote: Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake: whether it be to the king, as supreme; Or unto governors, as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers, and for the praise of them that do well. 1 Pet 2:13-14
Paul wrote: … not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator...with such an one, no not to eat...Therefore, put away from among yourselves that wicked person. 1 Cor 5:11-13
Four things the Council of Jerusalem retained from the Old Covenant in Acts 15:20: But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood.
“Whosoever offends one of these little ones, it would be better to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths Of the sea.” Matthew 18:6